The largest shovel..

That awful feeling. Your chest feels like it’s trying to keep together the millions of pieces your heart broke into. You feel yourself slipping and losing your strength. The regret comes seeping in. The memories flow freely and utterly against your will. The daydreams are overbearing. You gaze out the car window wondering how you ended up here at this point in your life. Everything reminds you of them. You keep going back to that letter you wanted to finish but never got around to it. That phonecall you wanted to make but figured there would always be time to do so. The tears stream down your face when you hear that song. You’re surrounded by your family and friends but the pain doesn’t leave. Ever.

What am I talking about?

Death? Love?

Both.

The aftermath of losing someone to either, has extremely similar ongoing emotional battles.

You break down. You don’t feel like you can get through without them. You don’t feel like you can get through anything anymore. You lost someone you treasured beyond measure. Why bother?

Because you have to.

You owe it to yourself. You owe it to them. You need to keep on keeping on. Dig deeper than you’ve ever dug before. Is is a breakup that we’re talking about? Use this time to work on you. Make yourself the main focal point now. You need to learn to love yourself again. Forgive yourself for your mistakes & your shortcomings. Don’t become sad and feel sorry for yourself. You need to start feeling blessed because you even experienced that feeling of love. It doesn’t come around often…and when it does, it should never be taken for granted. But, people make mistakes. They become products of their environments. They become influenced by the wrong things. Relationships end. But that’s when the most important relationship begins. The one with yourself. It’s never too late to become the person you’ve always wanted to be. And who knows? You just might find yourself an even happier ending…

Or is it a death we’re dealing with…

Don’t you ever push the feelings of love you had, and still harbor for this person out of your heart. Cherish the memories. Chances are you will not ever get over the death of your loved one…but in time, you will figure out how to get through it. The focal point that needs attention is the one where you lead the life you want knowing that you have someone beyond special to you guiding your way. It’s okay to miss them. It’s okay to not get over the fact that they’re gone. You need to think about them. Play their favorite music. Go to the spots you enjoyed together. Look at photographs – When you’re ready. Do not ever feel the need to rush the healing process. Just don’t ever, ever, ever give up. Find your strength within so you can do them proud. Let them watch you become the amazing person you are and always know they have a front row seat to your life. Don’t regret the time missed…cherish the time spent. Keep in mind, you will see them again..

The hardships of life always end up teaching us the most important lessons. Grab the biggest shovel you can find and dig. Find your strength. It’s in there.

Favorite quote time: “Put your hand over your heart. You feel that? It’s called purpose.”

What you believe, you will become. Believe you are destined for amazing things and you will achieve just that. Use your hardships to drive you further than you ever thought you could go. Push your limits and keep those perfect memories close. Cherish yourself, don’t punish. And hey…maybe it’s time to finish that letter..

Live with strength ❤

XOXO Karen