An interesting, yet morbid truth is that nobody can confidently say that they will still be living tomorrow.
Death is not easy. AT ALL. It’s probably the hardest thing to deal with. If they were suffering, some say it makes it easier to know that they are at peace now. When it’s sudden, it’s simply just not fair. Either way, saying ‘goodbye’ to a loved one is just heartbreaking.
However, the strangest thing about death is that even though it’s a serious degree of separation, it also brings people together. Sometimes you will end up meeting people you would’ve never encountered before, because of the connection they had with your loved one. During those difficult times, you might even find yourself comforted by the stories and bonds that they shared with the deceased. Hearing and remembering these tales, as well as looking through old photographs can actually help with the grieving process.
What we have to remember is that we all need time to grieve. But at some point, we must use all of our strength inside to push us past that process. We can’t have grief being the connection we have to the deceased. How terrible would it be that your precious loved one is being remembered as a legacy of pain that you’re choosing to carry around? We cannot focus on the moment they died instead of the moments they lived and the joy that they brought to your life. Every living being in this world has to die someday, but what’s important is how they lived, and how they made you feel. Hold onto those tender embraces, the funny antics, the mega watt smile, the generosity.
The only reason we should find ourselves feeling sad down the road when we think about someone we love is because of what was left unfinished, unsaid or undone. The pain of regret is tremendous and unfortunately can never be corrected. So while your loved ones are still with you, don’t let anything be unsaid or undone. Say “I love you” and “thank you”, because you want them to hear it and know it. We never know what tomorrow may bring, so we must make every moment count. I’m finding it ‘easier’ to do this with the simple thought that there is always a chance that this might be the last time I ever see this person.
Quoting Albert Pike – “What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains immortal.” I find this to be true in every sense, as we cannot take material objects with us when we depart this life. However, the memories, the joy and all the happiness we gained by knowing this person will forever remain within us. We carry the spirit of our loved one, with us always – we are never really without them.
Live With Strength ❤
XOXO Karen